You Being You

I want to thank everyone who came out to my workshop last week! Thank you for being open, for being *present* and for your smiles and great questions! Let’s do it again some time!

Today, I came across this and just had to share:

Panache Desai quote

It is a quote from Panache Desai, from Discovering Your Soul Signature. It reminds me that although it is good to read books by others, and to want to change, it is important above all to learn to be yourself — to love yourself and to listen to your own guidance the most closely. And know that YOU ARE ENOUGH. You are the blessing to those around you and the world. YOU ARE a miracle!

If you’re wondering what a soul signature is, I believe it’s the unique and beautiful way you are in the world. It’s the precious, one-of-a-kind imprint you leave on those around you. It’s the wake of your vibration — like the wake of a boat moving along — as you go through your day!

Have a great day, everyone! Love you all. ๐Ÿ™‚

Loved and Lost, Left and Laughed

Have you heard the expression

It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Although this can be a great way to think about past relationships — appreciating love in all its forms — it can also make us feel melancholy, miss “the good old days” or regret things we did.

I recently stumbled on a new musical artist, Leif Vollebekk. In his song When the Subway Comes Above the Ground he twists that well-known homily like this:

“It is better to have left and laughed than never to have left at all.”
– Leif Vollebekk When the Subway Comes Above the Ground

For some of us, this is all too true! It is better to have left unhappy or abusive relationships and learned to laugh again. It is better that we found our inner, hidden strength, that we learned to respect and love ourselvesโ€ฆ It is so much better to be alone and happy than attached to someone who hates himself so much, he seems intent on making you miserable.

yellow rose

It has been over twelve years since I left and laughed. If you are on the threshold of doing the same, considering leaving an unkind mate, let me tell you there is life after an ugly relationship — there is laughter after leaving.

International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies

Listen to Leif Vollebekk’s song here:

Loved and Lost, Left and Laughed

Have you heard the expression

It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Although this can be a great way to think about past relationships — appreciating love in all its forms — it can also make us feel melancholy, miss “the good old days” or regret things we did.

I recently stumbled on a new musical artist, Leif Vollebekk. In his song When the Subway Comes Above the Ground he twists that well-known homily like this:

“It is better to have left and laughed than never to have left at all.”

– Leif Vollebekk, When the Subway Comes Above the Ground

For some of us, this is all too true! It is better to have left unhappy or abusive relationships and learned to laugh again. It is better that we found our inner, hidden strength, that we learned to respect and love ourselvesโ€ฆ It is so much better to be alone and happy than attached to someone who hates himself so much, he is intent on making you miserable. He probably does love you, but he is so unhealthy he doesn’t know how to treat you with love and respect. Let him be the one one saying “it is better to have loved and lost…” Many people who love each other can’t live together peacefully, and that’s just the way it is.

It has been over twelve years since I left and laughed. If you are on the threshold of doing the same, considering leaving an unkind mate, let me tell you there is life after an ugly relationship, there is laughter after leaving.

International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies
yellow rose

“Leaving” could apply to other things, too. Maybe for you, it’s about leaving a job that isn’t good for you, or maybe you are thinking about leaving the place you are living. If you really can’t find a way to laugh — enjoy yourself, be happy — then maybe it is time to move. Sometimes we outgrow a place (or job), and the only solution is to leave and accept our “bigger good” somewhere else. Just keep in mind that if you are trying to run from your problems, they have an uncanny way of following you!

But sometimes, you just have to leave that drab apartment for a nicer place. Have you ever ridden a subway that came above ground? It is an interesting experience, and Leif Vollebekk’s song captures it beautifully (video below).


Thanks to CBC Radio, Q with Jian Ghomeshi for introducing me to this great music.

Beauty is Skin Deep

Once in a while, I come across a really great TED talk and just have to share it!

This one, by supermodel Cameron Russell is about beauty, society, and
how photos don’t represent who she really is. The video is only 9:38 min, so give it a look!

What Does the Future Hold?

Little Doctor Lake, NWT

Sometimes, it just hits you — I don’t need to know everything, and that’s okay. The Universe is looking out for me… And I can finally breathe easy and relax.

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This photos is taken looking back at Little Doctor Lake, NWT, as we fly away in the float plane that brought us there. ๐Ÿ™‚

Affirmations to Try, Part 2

Here are some more affirmations to try when you want to boost yourself up! ๐Ÿ™‚

“I am younger, healthier and happier than I’ve ever been.”

“I am so lucky to have such wonderful people around me.”

“I am getting ready to “level up!”

“There is always sunshine above the clouds.”

“Life is getting better every day!”

“There is so much to look forward to.”

“Everything is coming together for me.”

“All around me, things are working together for good.”

“I have so much to be grateful for!”

Here are some more affirmations.

Reality Isn’t Neat and Tidy!

Just a quick little post today! Notice anything interesting about these photos?

Okay, so the top one is from Shutterstock, clearly, and the bottom one is one of mine. You can’t really see it, but I am standing in a huge cloud of mist rising from a waterfall that is down in the crevice below me. ๐Ÿ™‚

But what I hoped you might notice is the differences in the photo styles — The top one is obviously staged, the other is not.

Real life is not as neat and tidy as stock photos! We see so many crisp, clean, nothing-in-the-background images on the internet and on TV, we might start to feel like our lives should be this way! Don’t despair. Life is messy, even cluttery, and that’s the way it’s supposed to be!

Go for Joy!

I recently received an amazing message from a higher plane. It was for a very good friend of mine and came to me after I did some healing energy work. I think it’s fairly universal message, so I wanted to share it with you:

Go for Joy!

Never turn away from joy…

Run to joy like you run down a hill.

If you had any doubts, have them no more! Go for JOY!

What if…

If you are unhappy with your life or yourself and you’re trying to figure out why, let me give you some things to think about:

What if…

  • What if everything you believe about yourself is not true?
  • What if something you believe about yourself is not true?
  • What if everything your parents taught you about how the world works was wrong?
  • What if something you are striving for is not attainable, not ever? Would you strive anyway?
  • What if stopped striving for anything and just allowed yourself to feel inner peace?
  • What if you accepted yourself fully? How would the world change?
  • What if you stopped caring about what you weigh, or how your hair looks, or what other people think of you?
  • What if you stopped checking your facebook?
  • What if you stopped watching the news? Or watching television altogether?
  • What if you started spending more time with yourself, learning how to love yourself?
  • What if you quit a job you hate, even though you don’t have another one yet? What if you believed that you could do something you love as a career?
  • What if some core belief that you have about yourself or about the world is just completely not true? What springs to mind when you read that? There is truth there…
  • What if you only spent time with people you truly enjoy?
  • What if you took more time to appreciate your spouse, and all your loved ones, and never again judged them?
  • What if you played the role of cheerleader for your closest friends?
  • What if you were able to loosen up some of your beliefs about relationships, and roles in relationships?
  • What if you let yourself relax, and not be so hard on yourself?

You have to understand, for half of these I am talking to myself! Maybe you will find some wisdom there… If one really speaks to you, leave a comment!

Ice crystals causing parhelia around the sun

Always Thinking

I have been thinking lately about thinking. I think A LOT! And so do you. We are virtually always thinking — the only times our brains stop is when we are sleeping or deeply meditating. Every other moment of the day, we are thinking about something — or many things all at once. But do you realize what you think about really matters!?

I’ve been paying attention lately to the effects of my thoughts. Sometimes, what I think about actually happens, right in front of my eyes. Other times, it happens later on. Things I consciously think about — especially things I fantasize about or really ponder for a while — Actually. Come. True. It’s neat, but it scares me at the same time! Am I at risk of getting into a car accident because I think about them sometimes? Yes, but I’m also at risk of living, and life is so damn risky, have you noticed!?!? ๐Ÿ™‚ (I just can’t sit around doing nothing, so the regular risks of life are okay with me.)

The biggest thing I have noticed though, is how my thoughts make me feel. I have done some experiments on myself ๐Ÿ™‚ and tried changing my mood by changing my thoughts. I have found that I can absolutely change how I feel by thinking happier thoughts (I never make myself feel worse, at least not on purpose). I have noticed that sometimes I feel icky because of my negative mode, and if I want to feel better, I can do it. It isn’t instantaneous, but in the course of a minute or so, I can actually make myself happier by just thinking of the feeling of positive anticipation, or reminding myself that the future is bright, and I have lots of good things to look forward to. I don’t even have to get specific, I can just think that I’d like to have more positive anticipation, and if I think that way for a minute or so, I really do start to feel that way. It might take longer if I’m more “down,” but if I’m feeling neutral or bored, it is surprisingly easy.

One key is to stay very much in the moment. You have to be aware of exactly what you are thinking, as you are thinking it (or close). So, that is the first step to being able to change the way you feel. Whenever you feel bad, try to grasp what thoughts led you there. Then, you can go general or distract yourself (read more here).

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I found this cartoon that matches so nicely…

(From here)

Goodbye 2012, Hello New Year!

New Year’s is such a wonderful time of year! It is a time of remembering the year past, but more importantly, of new beginnings. Every day is the chance for a new beginning, but somehow it is more real at this time of year. Perhaps it’s because everyone is in the mode of making resolutions and thinking about personal growth.

Would it be too bold to suggest a good New Year’s Resolution? It’s utterly simple, and will change your life:

May I be more THANKFUL this year.

For myself personally: May I see the beauty in everything. May I always feel I have enough because I am focused on all the good things in my life. May friends surround me, and may I be ever-grateful for them. May I be a good friend to each one, always seeing the best in them and loving them fully, with no inhibitions. May I be thankful for my family and never lose sight of their special-ness. I am so lucky to have them! May I rant and rave about how amazing life is more than I rant or rave about anything else. May I live in love so much of the time, to be away from it is strange and uncomfortable. May I appreciate every thing about my physical surroundings, and never, ever complain about anything. May peace and wholeness surround me. May I learn to love myself more completely. May I perpetually live in the present, remembering to breathe and knowing the awesomeness of nature extends to everything in my life.

Things to Keep in Mind When Making Decisions

I wrote an article on making good decisions over at Lifehack.org. Thought you might like to check it out!


Three Things to Keep in Mind When Making Decisions

Believe the Best

Today, I am a guest blogger on aMINDmedia.com! I wrote an article all about how believing the best changes everything! Go check it out here:

http://amindmedia.com/

I am really excited about this — Anne-Sophie of aMINDmedia looks like a really neat person, and she’s doing some very cool stuff! ๐Ÿ™‚

When Times are Tough… Stepping into the Dark

When I step from a well-lit area into the dark, an interesting thing happens. My heart starts to beat a little harder and I feel almost like I am blind — I cannot see anything, so I turn my head from side to side and blink furiously. But in a very short time — ten to fifteen seconds — my eyes start to adjust and then I can see again. The longer I am in the dark, the better I can see. After several minutes, I can see almost everything around me and aside from reading small print, I can function totally normally. I bet you’ve experienced the same thing, moving into the darkness!

The same can be true in our lives. When you enter a “dark period” in your life, it feels very unpleasant and your heart starts to pound, too. You can’t see what’s coming up, or what resources or obstacles are around you. Your reflex is to stop everything — instinct won’t let you move unless you can see what you’re walking into. However, if you just wait a little while, the darkness begins to lose its edge, and in no time, you can start to see what is going on. If you stay calm, you can adapt and continue functioning normally. If you panic or think that this is the end of the world, even though your eyes are adjusting, you won’t be able to understand what you are seeing clearly. You won’t know where to go.

So, remember that if times are tough — or if you are remembering a skeleton in your closet that brings back those feelings that times are tough — just wait a little while and you will start to see clearly again. It won’t take long, I promise. It’s a good idea to pause while you regain your vision, just don’t stop there indefinitely. Once you can see again, you can move forward.

Take care, everybody!

Affirmations to Try

I just thought I would take a quick minute to share some of my favourite affirmations with you! Although some are “deeper” than others, they have all been very helpful and powerful. Give them a try or make your own!

“I am surrounded by people who love and support me.”

“Everything I eat goes into the building blocks for healthy cells.”

“Every time I brush my teeth, they get healthier and healthier.”

“I have all the money I could possibly need for anything and everything I could possibly want or need to pay for!”

“Nothing can harm my eternal spirit.”

“I love my job and I’m really good at it!”

“My car is awesome; it cruises along so smoothly and operates perfectly.”

“Good things are coming my way!”

And the one I use most frequently: “Everything always goes smoothly for me.”

May these affirmations help you be kind to yourself, love yourself more, and overcome your past. Do you have any affirmations you’d like to share?